I fell in love with Lauren Thatcher Ulrich a couple of years ago when I read her Pulitzer Prize-winning book about a colonial midwife, A Midwife's Tale. Immediately, I purchased Good Wives: Image and Reality in the Lives of Women in Northern New England 1650-1750. I just finished Good Wives last night and let me tell you, it is just as fascinating as A Midwife's Tale.
Good Wives has a subtitle that is quite descriptive but still only hints at its details and depths. In the introduction to this book, Ulrich mentions a gravestone that says a woman was "Eminent for Holiness, Prayerfulness, Watchfulness, Zeal, Prudence, Sincerity, Humility, Meekness, Patience, Weanedness from ye World, Self-denial, Publik-Spiritedness, Diligence, Faithfulness and Charity."
Nowadays, we would think this woman was either a) not real or b) really boring. But Ulrich points out that in the 17th and 18th centuries, people did not try to be individuals, but to conform and be ideal. "A good wife earned the dignity of anonymity," Ulrich says, and then she sets out in her book to show readers exactly what a "good wife" was - a loving mother, an obedient wife, and a kind neighbor. And she also shows us what happens when women strayed from those norms, for good and bad reasons, and what the consequences were. It is a fascinating study about a population that did not leave much behind to describe their lives to us.
Good Wives has a subtitle that is quite descriptive but still only hints at its details and depths. In the introduction to this book, Ulrich mentions a gravestone that says a woman was "Eminent for Holiness, Prayerfulness, Watchfulness, Zeal, Prudence, Sincerity, Humility, Meekness, Patience, Weanedness from ye World, Self-denial, Publik-Spiritedness, Diligence, Faithfulness and Charity."
Nowadays, we would think this woman was either a) not real or b) really boring. But Ulrich points out that in the 17th and 18th centuries, people did not try to be individuals, but to conform and be ideal. "A good wife earned the dignity of anonymity," Ulrich says, and then she sets out in her book to show readers exactly what a "good wife" was - a loving mother, an obedient wife, and a kind neighbor. And she also shows us what happens when women strayed from those norms, for good and bad reasons, and what the consequences were. It is a fascinating study about a population that did not leave much behind to describe their lives to us.