Monday, August 13, 2012

Musings: Delusions of Gender

Delusions of Gender
WOW.  This is one of those books that you will read aloud to anyone that happens to be seated next to you and will quote from in conversations for weeks to come.  It will also make you think critically about any even remotely gender-biased situation in which you may find yourself.

Cordelia Fine's Delusions of Gender is a book that I think every woman should read.  I think every man should read it, too, but I think the impact will be more powerful for women because they will see in it so many past conversations and dilemmas and decisions and just how much gender may have impacted all of them.

The back-of-the-book blurb for this one is wonderfully concise and descriptive, so I'll use it here:
Drawing on the latest research in neuroscience and psychology, Cordelia Fine debunks the myth of hardwired differences between men’s and women’s brains, unraveling the evidence behind such claims as men’s brains aren’t wired for empathy and women’s brains aren’t made to fix cars. She then goes one step further, offering a very different explanation of the dissimilarities between men’s and women’s behavior. Instead of a “male brain” and a “female brain,” Fine gives us a glimpse of plastic, mutable minds that are continuously influenced by cultural assumptions about gender. 

Everyone always brings up the fact that there are fewer women in math and science than men - Fine addresses this in great detail, going back to just how young children are when the learn the stereotype that girls are just not as good at math and science as boys are.  In reading this part of the book, I couldn't help but take it another step further (Fine does not do this).  Why is it that the fields in which women have not yet made much headway - engineering, sciences, investment banking, etc. - are those that are generally higher paid?  I can't help but think this isn't a coincidence, and it really bothers me.  This implies that jobs that can be done and often are done by women are less valuable than those that are done primarily by men.  Also that perhaps these jobs aren't as difficult or as rigorous as those still held by men.

There are SO MANY mind-blowing facts presented in this book, and I warn you that most of them will upset you.  BUT if you are a woman in the work force, or a woman raising children, or a woman of any type at all, or a man who interacts with women (I think I covered all my bases there, right?), then you really should read it. I had so many light bulb moments about my own life or about the decisions I've seen my friends make about how to lead their lives - the balancing act that inevitably comes with being female.

One of the most fascinating sections to me was about the extreme difficulty of raising gender-neutral children.  There were some truly heart-breaking stories of children being so comfortable and at peace with themselves when home with their parents only to have their identities and preferences called into brutal question by their peers who know what girls should do and what boys should do.  Kids can be so cruel.

Also interesting was evidence that "subtle triggers for stereotype threat seem to be more harmful than blatant cues, which suggests the intriguing possibility that stereotype threat may be more of an issue for women now than it was decades ago, when people were more loose-lipped when it came to denigrating female ability.”

Wow. Considering how many portrayals of ditzy girls exist on TV and on radio and in books, this is a very, very disturbing thing to hear. In some ways, this book made me feel very defeatist. Gender stereotypes seem like insurmountable mountains for us to conquer, and it's even harder to overcome them as they become more subtle and people continue believing that they don't exist.  They do, and they do real harm, and if reading this book makes you just a little bit more cognizant of that, then that is a small victory in itself.

I leave you with an NPR article that describes stereotype bias much more briefly, if you don't have time to read the book.  Ignore the comments - as is the case with so many newspaper articles online, reading the comments will make you weep for the future of this world.

19 comments:

  1. Sounds interesting! I'd sure like to know more

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  2. Yes, EVERYONE should read this! I've been looking forward to your review for ages - so glad to see it at last :D And yeah, Don't Read The Comments is pretty much my strategy with any news article these days.

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    1. You know, it was really hard to write this review because I just wanted to spew a bunch of facts out at everyone and scream "CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS?!" But instead had to try to be semi-articulate. Which was very difficult!

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    2. Thanks. We all need clear, basic accounts like this. Would it a good book for the Feminist Classics group to read and discuss?

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    3. I don't know if I would qualify it as a classic as it's pretty new. But it's definitely a good book for any feminist to read!

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  3. I know, I know! I WANT this book! I guess I should just go online and buy it right now.

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    1. That is definitely what you should do. Right now.

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  4. I find so much of what you have said here to be very intense and think that this is a book that would not only shape the way that I look at the world, but the way in which my children would too. I need to get this really soon and dive in. The fact is, many women have been influenced by gender stereotypes to the extreme, and I can count myself in that number as well. Thanks for the very wonderful review today, Aarti. Thanks for pointing out the news article as well! I will NOT be reading the comments.

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    1. Yes, and you should have your daughter read it after you, too! She would greatly benefit as well.

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  5. That's a stunning idea that the "soft" prompts to stereotypical behavior today may be more pernicious than the blatant ones of the past. I write about women in the thirties who were not bound by these rules...but they paid a price.

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    1. I know, it is really disturbing, isn't it? I guess you can't fight such a slippery idea...

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  6. I'm glad I own a copy of this book, can't wait to read it. I work as a primary school teacher and in the four years of my career I have taught children aged 6-11 and the gender messages they get from society can be shocking. The 11 year old girls in my last class all wanted to marry a sports star or just 'be famous' at the moment. I try to encourage them to aspire to be more than that, but it feels like swimming against a current.

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    1. Oh, wow. That IS very sad. I think when I was 11, my career choice was "environmental oncologist," meaning, I wanted to be an environmentalist AND cure cancer.

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  7. This looks fantastic, Aarti. It's been a good (too) long while since I've read any books along these lines, and this one is making me crave the subject matter!

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    1. I think you'd really like it - it's truly fascinating. Also disturbing, but still important!

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  8. I've read reviews of this book and others like it, and just that alone has made me even more aware of gender bias manifesting itself in the conversations around me. I fear that I will be quite depressed if I read this book, but I want to read it anyway.

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    1. It can be depressing, but it is also liberating to know that your gender does not define you- youdo that.

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  9. "Why is it that the fields in which women have not yet made much headway - engineering, sciences, investment banking, etc. - are those that are generally higher paid?" I would say that's a big factor in it, especially as there's still a gap in a lot of jobs anyway.

    I wish I could give this book to my mother. If anything I think it's the older generation that's going to keep this whole issue stay around.

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